Perhaps you already see the signs of growth in your organization. Maybe you are seeing results from the marketing you ramped up last quarter or you landed that big project. Unfortunately, a typical response to these “threats” of expansion is one of celebration followed by the realization that you aren’t ready! This realization is a lack of confidence or preparedness and can translate into self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage takes on many forms: postponing a profitable partnership, delaying a critical staffing reassignment, or deferring difficult decision-making– just to name a few. Self-sabotage prevents what we think might happen and protects us from numerous fears becoming reality. These fears might include:
- Personal failure (I put everything I’ve got into this dream, what if I can’t pull it off?)
- Letting others down (My staff counts on me for timely and legitimate paychecks.)
- Being discovered (What if they realize I am as not as capable as I wish to appear.)
- Not deserving success (Who am “I” to lead this charge or carry out this vision?)
- Too much work (I am already working 60 hours a week.)
- Losing power or control of situations, or worse, direction of the company
- Asking for help/advice or deferring responsibility
Believe it or not, it may be easier to be prepared for growth than to be confident about growth. Sure, you can plan to overtake market share and strategize to keep it. You can staff up or arrange for training. Though challenging, these activities are still easier than being confident!
The secret to confidence is… Drumroll, please? Confidence is reflecting on something you didn’t think you could DO and acknowledging that you DID! Then, repeating that realization following every “too big, too fast” experience. So, get logical, set yourself up for success, dump the self-sabotage, and go for it! As your challenges increase in difficulty, you will continue to develop confidence. You only get more confidence when you take action without enough!!
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Michelle Sugerman (PMP, PCC) is a speaker, author, and leadership coach with Leading Synergies. She hosts global masterminds, called Synergy Groups, for REALLY BUSY Christians leading with powerful confidence and humble hearts. She works with high-performing leaders focused on organizational effectiveness by refining strategy, inspiring teams, and delighting clients. Michelle specializes in the areas of information technology, project management, franchise management, and business as mission. Michelle lives in Colorado where she hikes fourteeners and enjoys gourmet meals with her loving husband of 21 years.